Femme Fatalities Message Board

Bluestone, you are exactly right. I'm an older guy, and have been happily married to the same woman for 35 years now. We've got two great sons, and a delightful family life. My wife says that I've even got a "feminie streak" because I'm very understanding of her and women in general; and always kind and considerate. She knows about my strange affliction by now, as you'd expect, and it was certainly difficult for her to understand at first, largely because we didn't really talk about it. Once we did, it fell in place in her mind, and now she just lets me retreat into my own world from time to time, just as she does herself when she heads for Talbots or Macy's... Same difference, I say...

The fetish is clearly fantasy. I think it comes from some angry times between my parents when I was very young, which somehow got resolved in my head through the "comeuppance" that the bad girls got in the old film noir flicks. The fetish has always been been an entertainment that sparks pleasure, seeing the various scenes in mainstream movies (and I've collected hundreds of them by now). The advent of the internet made it possible for the small group of us to communicate, share, and now, produce short films that cater to this fantasy, and more explicitly than the Hollywood stuff can. But having met a number of the producers and models over the years as I've sponsored custom stuff, I can say that everyone has a big laugh on the sets as we strive for more eroticism in our weird world. I think the ladies have just as much fun "dying" and playing dead as we do in watching it.

Bottom line, I love women and have great fun with all this. But none of us would hurt a flea.

No way does this represent any bad feeling towards women. I would never want to see anyone hurt or killed. It's just the action of the moment that excites me. I prefer breasts as targets, so what turned me on originally is seeing a woman clutch her breast, or look at her breast when it's been shot or stabbed. Seeing them suffocated, blown up or shot or stabbed anywhere else does not do anything for me, so it is definitely not the act of getting killed that means anything to me.

I agree with the other posters' comments as well as Bluestone's intro. It has nothing to do with misogyny for me. How do I know that? Long before I got a kick out of watching scenes of women getting killed, I used to prefer scenes of hot babes killing guys... The whole "girls with guns" genre is my original death-related fantasy, and it revolved around the typical themes: cool, sexy hitwomen with silencers blowing away guys; girls like Xenia Onatopp in Goldeneye having an orgasm while wasting everybody with her machine gun; etc. etc. THAT was my initial fantasy, so it had nothing against women at all. (Does that mean I hated men before???? Huh????)

No, it was only later that I realized, "Hey, why do I need to look at ugly guys at all? Why not just replace the victims with females?" Works pretty much the same, although a part of me still likes to imagine playing the victim of a deadly girl. I guess I like to place myself in the girl's place for these fantasies, substituting the writhing, agonizing death throes for orgasm... Imagining what it's like to play dead... That's my story and I'm sticking to it!

I agree with the previous posters. I love women and have hard feelings toward thugs who abuse wives/girlfriends. Only in fantasy do I wish to see a lady injured. And only because the fantasy is the injured victim whether shot, stabbed, strangled or otherwise, receives a feeling of ecstasy from being punctured or made breathless. My ex-wife enjoyed this game of being pretend strangled. It brought her many a strong orgasm.

I love women.

I consider rape an abomination, and yet, in my FANTASY, sex is omnipresent, either forced or consentual (in equal parts).

The strongest focus is the sense of loss in the story. It's the heroine who falls. Sure, the villainess might go down, but for the sake of arousal, the bad girl has to have a sympathetic component, a redeeming quality to make it feel "good."