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Getting rid of this
Posted: Sat Nov 11, 2023 1:21 pm
by Unacceptance
I wonder how I can get rid of this part of me? Anyone ever tried? I am ashamed of it. I sometimes hate myself for having such fantasies. Any advice would be appreciated.
Re: Getting rid of this
Posted: Sat Nov 11, 2023 11:55 pm
by xahma
Considering how early this "kink" started for me, I doubt there's any getting rid of it for any of us. It's likely given to us from birth — just like heterosexuality or homosexuality. (At least for cases like mine)
Why be ashamed of it, if you know you're a good person and fantasies are just fantasies? We cannot help what we like, but we can help what we do.
Anyhow, don't be so bothered by the society's view on certain things if you have your morality in check. The loudest voice in the society can be mostly made up of the voices of people who indulge in their ignorance and receive their moral conclusions from cultural indoctrination or virtue signals, instead of undertaking their own contemplation.
So what I'm trying to say is: It is respectable that you've thought about things and felt shame. That is what most people on this planet are not willing to do! But be comforted in knowing that there's no such thing as an inherently evil "part of you".
Re: Getting rid of this
Posted: Sun Nov 12, 2023 9:13 am
by Unacceptance
xahma wrote: ↑Sat Nov 11, 2023 11:55 pm
Considering how early this "kink" started for me, I doubt there's any getting rid of it for any of us. It's likely given to us from birth — just like heterosexuality or homosexuality. (At least for cases like mine)
Why be ashamed of it, if you know you're a good person and fantasies are just fantasies? We cannot help what we like, but we can help what we do.
Anyhow, don't be so bothered by the society's view on certain things if you have your morality in check. The loudest voice in the society can be mostly made up of the voices of people who indulge in their ignorance and receive their moral conclusions from cultural indoctrination or virtue signals, instead of undertaking their own contemplation.
So what I'm trying to say is: It is respectable that you've thought about things and felt shame. That is what most people on this planet are not willing to do! But be comforted in knowing that there's no such thing as an inherently evil "part of you".
Thanks for the reply.
Yeah, my morality is definitely in check, but I started feeling worse about myself when things changed in my country.
Re: Getting rid of this
Posted: Sun Nov 12, 2023 10:28 am
by xahma
Unacceptance wrote: ↑Sun Nov 12, 2023 9:13 am
xahma wrote: ↑Sat Nov 11, 2023 11:55 pm
Considering how early this "kink" started for me, I doubt there's any getting rid of it for any of us. It's likely given to us from birth — just like heterosexuality or homosexuality. (At least for cases like mine)
Why be ashamed of it, if you know you're a good person and fantasies are just fantasies? We cannot help what we like, but we can help what we do.
Anyhow, don't be so bothered by the society's view on certain things if you have your morality in check. The loudest voice in the society can be mostly made up of the voices of people who indulge in their ignorance and receive their moral conclusions from cultural indoctrination or virtue signals, instead of undertaking their own contemplation.
So what I'm trying to say is: It is respectable that you've thought about things and felt shame. That is what most people on this planet are not willing to do! But be comforted in knowing that there's no such thing as an inherently evil "part of you".
Thanks for the reply.
Yeah, my morality is definitely in check, but I started feeling worse about myself when things changed in my country.
What kind of things?